I know if you read this elderly caregiver article over at the New York Times and you are caring for an elderly parent or loved one, you’re probably going to shake your head in agreement that all of it sounds good. You’re going to secretly think, “Wouldn’t it be nice…?” You might even tell a friend about it.
I would like to propose this to you: In many cases, providing care for someone (even part-time) is like a long distance run. You have to pace yourself and you have to take care of yourself if you’re going to cross the finish line.
Any adult child who has cared for an aging parent knows that caring for someone else (beyond your other obligations) is taxing. No one can expect you to be superhuman; neither should you. Don’t feel guilty about a little time to yourself.
And, above all, be good to yourself.